"... we fail to see that the socially problematic spontaneity of little children is as yet uncoordinated and 'embryonic.' We then make the mistake of socializing children, not by developing their spontaneity, but by developing a system of resistances and fears which splits the organism into a spontaneous center and an inhibiting center. Thus it is rare indeed to find an integrated person capable of self-controlling spontaneity, which sounds like a contradiction in terms. It is as if we were teaching our children to walk by lifting up their feet with their own hands instead of moving their legs from within. We do not see that before spontaneity can control itself it must be able to function. The legs must have full freedom of movement before they can acquire the disciplines of walking and running or dancing... Spontaneity is, after all, total sincerity - the whole being involved in the act without the slightest reservation...

... Thus a Hindu sage has remarked that the first thing he has to teach Westerners who come to him is how to cry..."

~ Alan W. Watts, Nature, Man and Woman, 1958